Heartbreak

It's hard to see someone we love in pain. Right now a sweet relative is going through a tough breakup. Knowing how much a broken heart can hurt, I just want to sit her down and tell her it's all going to be okay. That he's a fool, and he is no doubt missing her. But, I know what she's feeling. Heartbreak is something that you never really get over. Just think about the last time your heart broke, that you physically felt pain at the loss of a love, and you can still feel a tinge of that pain all over again, no matter how much time has passed.

Instead, each day I try to just give one little snippet of something that I hope makes her smile; Something I wish someone would have told me when my heart was breaking.

I'm hoping her heart heals faster than most, that she takes the time to not just heal but to grow and become so much more than she would have been with him.

Losing a relationship is hard. The healing that has to happen afterwards is no different than mourning a death. It's not that we are mourning the loss of the person; Rather it is the death of a relationship, the loss of love, which leaves an empty feeling in our chest.

The old saying is that time heals a broken heart, and in a way it does. We cry a little less each day. It gets a bit easier to sleep with each passing night. We begin to realize that life goes on, and eventually we see that we are the author of our own story. The only way to ensure a happy life for ourselves is to get up each day and face the world with a smile on our face and an optimistic attitude. It isn't the time passing that heals us, rather it seems that we heal ourselves, it just takes a little time. 

Some of the snippets I've shared with her so far:

"A woman's strength isn't just about how much she can handle before she breaks. It's also about how much she must handle after she's broken."

"One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether it's guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go."

"Believe in happy endings. Because you are the author of the story of your life." (Douglas Pagels)


My credo is "Everything Happens for a Reason." I think heartbreaks can help us become more independent, more positive, maybe even a bit stronger.